Saturday, December 10, 2011

Am I a Good Mom?

I have been asking myself this question lately. Sometimes I'm pretty comfortable and confident in saying yes, I am a good mom. At least a lot better than some other moms. But other times, I'm not so sure. Plenty of reasons why I've been doubting my "mommyhood performance". One of them is because I've been working harder and harder lately, with more late nights than ever. Can I help it? Perhaps not. Better time management is not the answer either. For the past few months, I have been spending a lot less time doing non work-related stuff both online or offline, like reading a book or blog hopping. I have never been so preoccupied with work. Even when I am not at the office or in front of my laptop, I am constantly thinking about work, my mind can not seem to stop. It's probably a phase I have to go through, we are at a sort of turning point in our company where every decision seems to be a major one which can affect the the future of our business. So it's perhaps unavoidable to be spending so much time at work and consequently, I have very little time for other things. My life is all about work and Aluf.

Do I feel guilty though? Yes, of course. I usually don't give in to the thought too often when I'm at the office, but when I finally park my car in front of the house, step into the dark and quiet living room for the 3rd or 4th time that week and I know Aluf is already sleeping soundly in our room, I'm always hit with a pang of incredible guilt. I hate having to miss our night time ritual. I love reading to her before bed and love how immediately after, she'd ask me to tell her a story from my childhood. I love how she snuggles up to me afterwards, her little face looking so content and I love watching her finally dozing off and her lips are still smiling. It pains me having to miss that but I know deep in my heart that if I want to reach the goals that I've set up for myself and my family, I have to do this. I just hope she'll understand it when she's old enough.